Think about your own childhood and growing up. How did your guardians, whether parents, step-parents, grandparents or others, raise you? Which style best fits them? Do you think your culture played a role in how you were raised?
Remember different caregivers can have different styles, and the style does not change everyday if is the overall actions and words of the person. Overall a parent was authoritarian, but at moments a child can talk and discuss things, an example of authoritative, but the parent is grouped with the authoritarian parent.
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I grew up in an upper middle-class Christian family. I have a mother, father, and a younger brother. We grew up with having all our needs provided and most of our wants. We had chores that needed to be done, and money was given when we wanted to hang out with friends rather than an allowance. Both my parents had authoritarian parenting styles.
ReplyDeleteMy mom and dad explained rules and consequences. They followed through most of the time and always challenged us to be a right and moral person even when no one was looking. They let us fail if we didn’t do our work, and they modeled appropriate behavior. Many of my consequences were either spankings or having privileges taken away. My mom was the type to leave her cart at the store and leave if we didn’t act “right.” Were they perfect? No, but I think they did a pretty good job.
I grew up in an Army family that moved around every few years. My family consisits of a mother, father, and a younger sister. I guess you would say we were middle class, I don't remember getting everything I wanted but I did get mostly everything. My sisiter and I had chores that had to be done and we also received an allowance for doing them. I would have to say that my dad was very authoritarian but my mom had a tendency to be a bit more permissve as we got older. My parents expected us to behave in public and if we choose not to then we had to stay home. I grew up eating dinner evry night as a family around the table. I don't think our culture played much into our upbringing but I think my father being a miltary man, as was his father, had more to do with his parenting styles. I think I had great parents.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a mixed middle class family. I have a step father who helped raise me for the majority of my life. My parents raised me completely different from my sisters. I grew up getting a lot of the things I wanted but not as much time or attention spent on me and my life in my early childhood. I got a lot of attention at certain milestones in my life and got more attention as i got older. I would say with my sister they raised her more authoritative but with me they were more permissive but they did still have a little bit of authoritative hold on me at times and as I grew older. As for whether or not its permissive by choice or by default I feel it is kind of up for debate. I could say that it was by choice, but that would be an opinion and I'm not too sure. It also could be by default because of my sister. The things they tried and the failed attempts to get a hold of my sister could have reflected in the styles of which they raised me.
ReplyDeleteI have always been really close to my mom and she has given me a lot of things in my life but growing up and in my childhood I spent a lot of time alone and at other peoples houses because my parents were gone so I grew up faster than most and did a lot of self discipline. I have always appreciated the things i've gotten and I don't have any hard feelings about the way I was raised. If I was raised in any other way I wouldn't have turned out the way I did today. I don't believe that my culture played a role in my parents raising me. We've always just been a strong family despite everything. I think my Mom and Step Dad did the best that they could do and they raised me to be an incredibly strong and caring person. I love my parents.
Growing up, my guardians were my birth parents. Together, my mother and father used the Authoritative style with my older brother and me. They expected us to act our age. I had a ten o’clock curfew until I turned eighteen years old. Once eighteen though, I moved into an apartment with my boyfriend, and my parents were okay with it. Growing up, my parents often grounded me when I misbehaved. It was never unfairly sentenced, though. My parents always explained to me the rules and what they expected and what would happen if I broke the rules. I usually chose to do what I wanted anyway, and in the end always ended up grounded. My parents were serious about groundings, and never let up or shorted my time. Authoritative parents are warm and nurturing, and that is what my parents were/are. Whenever my mother wanted me to do something, such as clean my room, she reminded me kindly, but consistently. Children of authoritative parents tended to be socially responsible and independent when first observed in preschool (Marion, p. 12). When I was first taken to pre-school, I loved being there. I had no problems making friends. I loved being at school. Growing up, my parents always told me to view arguments and situations from the other person’s perspective. This helped me to become more empathetic in my later years. My mother and father were also always encouraging me in everything I did. Girl Scouts, talent shows, baseball, soccer, gymnastics, cheerleading, swimming, etc… I can honestly say that at least one of my parents came to every single one of these games or programs for these activities. Even now at eighteen years old and not living at home, my parents still come to my coed soccer game every Sunday. They still enjoy watching me and supporting me in activities, after all these years.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a middle-upper class in my country, as many Latin American countries, Ecuador and in my family my father is the head of the family, I would say that my parents made somehow a combination of authoritative/authoritarian/permissive by choice model in my household. My siblings and I were always told about the consequences of our actions, we were always explained why values, feelings, and good actions were important in life. For us family comes first, and the family values and staying together as a family is very important. My father sometimes set his way in many things and we are not allowed to question them. My parents also showed us a lot of affection and are very warm to us. They are also very supportive and they are always open to have a conversation and listen to our point of views, they sometimes don't agree with them but they respect them. I would say that my culture has a great impact on the way I was raised, I wasn't always given what I wanted but still I never had any needs and grew up in a safe environment. I think that with time my parents became more permissive with certain things, it depends on what was the occasion. It is a little hard for me to fit in only one style of care giving because my parents are not that rigid, but when it comes to things they know are not good for us they become more authoritarian and maybe it is because that's the way they were raised. I feel that for me somethings are normal in my culture and that might be not normal in the North American Culture but I am happy that I'm experiencing this culture and learning different ways that might work better than the ones I know and that my parents made this possible. I think I'm very blessed with my family.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a middle class, Christian family. Although my parents divorced when I was fourteen, my mom was still an athoritative caregiver. She always held us accountable, but was there to support us every step of the way. I was both spanked and grounded. My parents always seemed to know which punishment was appropriate at the time. Looking back, the times I was spanked or gtounded I completely deserved the punishment. Neither one of my parents ever punished me for no reason at all. I feel like if I'm able to do half as good a job as they did, I'll be doing all right.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a middle class home with my mom and dad and 4 other siblings. My parents were authoritative. We all had our own chores that we had to do and we were rewarded with allowance. My parents, now deceased, were my best friends. I am the youngest of 5 and I learned allot from my older siblings as well.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in Illinois around a lot of boys. My great grandparents had 14 children and in my generation I am the only girl and the youngest. So it is safe to say that I was beat up by the boys around my age in the family. Growing up I had to learn how to defend myself although I have always been petit. It taugh me that size didnt matter and im glad I learned that lesson early. My mother was more of a authoritative parent who loved doing fun things with us as long as we did what she asked us to do. We did receive spankings with belts but we soon leaerned our lesson of what to do and what not to do for the most part. I do think that our culture played a role in the way I was brought up. It is normal in our culture to spank the children when they have done wrong and need to learn a lesson. But I liked the way that when I got older my mother would be more selective with her reasons for spanking me and my brother.Over all, the things that I remember most from my childhood were the fun, exciting things that we were rewarded with for remaining in good academic standings with our schools. As long as we stayed on honor roll we got to enjoy more outings as a family and go on more road trips to places that we loved to be. I believe that I lived a great childhood life and the lessons I learned have stuck with me. I was a happy child.
ReplyDeleteI grew up here in Dallas, Texas but I am from Arkansas. Both of my parents are from the south, my dad is from Houston and my mom is from Arkansas as well. I am the oldest of two. I have a younger brother, who is nine years younger than me. I was raise to always have southern hospitality and good morals. For example I ALWAYS had to say “Please” and “Thank You”. Even though I was very spoiled, and receive everything, I was discipline. There were many occasions when I had to deal with my consequences, especially during my teenage years. Overall, I think I turn out great and I plan to teach my son the same morals and manners, that I was taught.
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